When I moved to London I had one friend. One. I thought we'd pop round each others house for cups of tea, meet in the city centre for cocktails and just frolic around the wondrous city. Then I realised how bloody massive London is! I came from a town where there was two pubs, one hourly bus and a college, not even one café Nero. You could walk to the next street over and be at your best mates in two minutes. London however, as well connected as it is, is full to bursting with well stuff. But that means its full of new opportunities. And new friends.
Growing up I thought I struggled to fit. I was bigger, louder, more determined, more headstrong than most (all!) 15 year girls in my area. It took me ten years to realise its not about fitting in. Its about being yourself. And loving her (or him - you do you!) because they are the person you are always gonna have to live with. I didn't move to London with the intention of making friends, that may seem harsh but let me explain - I went with the intention of putting the best me out there to the world and whomever wanted to hangout was more than welcome to, as long as they brought good energy with them. I aimed to always present a positive energy, be honest, focused, caring and supportive - to myself. I then promised myself that is how I would treat others. Think of how you talk to your best friend, you support, compliment and love them - that is exactly how you should treat yourself because no matter how fantastic your best friend is only you have the power to change your own life. And you do that by changing your mindset to a positive, open one.
I have walked away from 'friends' because of the way they treat themselves because in turn they then treat me in the same way. Pessimism, negativity, bitchiness - its not productive to anyone. I will only actively chose to spend time with those who make me feel good about me and when I feel good I can make them feel good about them. Its basically the opposite of a vicious circle! A loving line if you wish.
And because of that I am now surrounded by the ultimate squad! I was a girl who was invited to parties just to be ridiculed I now spend time with hilarious, hardworking, supportive people who make my life brighter. They are my #positiveposse! From workshops to performance jobs to play readings to those fun little money earners in between I have met people who's energy just brings light and happiness to the world. Then when I go home my two girls are exactly the same, their joy makes me smile and their unwavering encouragement lets me know that even though they've seen me cry, tantrum, argue and moan they have love and belief in me.
So if you do anything this year create your own #positiveposse. Those people who make you feel good and who you want to make feel good about themselves too. You'd be surprised by the change in your day to day living when you receive little messages of support, funny quotes from moments you've shared together, insider info on shows you want to see or be in, even just pictures from way back. You have a spring in your step and a song in your heart knowing that you are loved at that overflow of love can be shared with others. I make sure I make time to have the odd #powerlunch with my crew, to hear about their amazing plans and goals and to laugh about the last time one of us did something wonderfully bonkers. You won't mind changing on to four different lines to see them or even going on trains , planes and automobiles for a cuddle because no money can buy the love and support your #positiveposse can provide.